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May 22, 2000
Precarious Situations
Love can be perilous, especially when betrayal and lust interfere with our common-sense, everyday lives. This week, our stern SHE-HE advice team considers the alarming question of a woman out to get her best friend's man. They also discuss the delicate issue of weight-gain, and lastly, the vaguest question we've received so far. But first, we turn to the case of the well-intentioned back-stabber.
- She slept with her best-friend's boyfriend.
- Should she tell all, ask forgiveness, or keep quiet?
Date: 05/22/00 - She amassed a nice winter layer.
- He wants her to lose it. But if he mentions it, does he lose her instead?
Date: 05/22/00 - Recovering from relationships.
- How long does it take men to flush their ex-girlfriends and move on?
Date: 05/22/00 - From our archives...
- She's using him for sex.
- - Should he file a complaint, or stop whining and let the good times roll?
Date: 05/15/00 - She dropped him cold.
- - Does he torture himself to get her back, or is it out of his hands?
Date: 05/15/00 - Her bisexual ex got her all messed up.
- Is her trauma justified, or does she need to face the real world?
Date: 05/15/00 - EXTRA!! Her boyfriend's boring!
- - Should she help him get his act together, or dump him ASAP?
Date: 05/08/00 - He can't meet women in bars
- - So who can? Or better yet, who wants to?
Date: 05/08/00 - So, what about working with the person you're dating?
- She says PASS, he says GO.
Date: 05/08/00 - She's dating a single-dad who's getting serious fast.
- Time to sound the alarm, or is she drowning in a pail?
Date: 05/01/00 - Older woman seeks younger man.
- Midlife crisis, hopeless cause, or perfectly normal?
Date: 05/01/00 - They have very different educational backgrounds.
- Can the relationship outlast their mismatched ambitions?
Date: 05/01/00 - Renaissance man gives up on housework.
- Girlfriend refuses to go it solo. Ultimate battle of the sexes?
Date: 04/24/00 - He needs the perfect 'we're just friends now' gift.
- - Our expert advice on this momentous mission.
Date: 04/24/00 - Asking the STD 'test question.'
- - A dead-end on Passion Street, or the gleaming Avenue of Common Sense?
Date: 04/24/00 - He cheated, lost her, and wants her back.
- Can he 'buy' her love, or does he have to earn it?
Date: 04/17/00 - 'I just want a fling, that's all...'
- The words every woman wants to hear, or - too much brutal honesty?
Date: 04/17/00 - She's only 26, dating and... divorced.
- Should she tell, or will it scare them away?
Date: 04/17/00 - Stuck in girlfriend confusion.
- Is he really in love with two different women, or suffering from self-delusion?
Date: 04/17/00 - An innocent work-date blows up in his face...
- But is there more to his wife's outraged reaction?
Date: 04/17/00 - Woman vs. Girl.
- Proper respect vs. crass sexism, or Mature and wily vs. innocent and exciting?
Date: 04/10/00 - Happiness struck when she least expected it.
- Does this call for self-flagellation, or is the situation not so dire?
Date: 04/10/00 - Personal ads in cyberspace:
- The cure for superficial bar talk! A miracle waiting to happen! Yee-haw!
Date: 04/10/00 - He's very elusive of late, she never sees him.
- She thinks he might be cheating. Innocent or guilty?
Date: 04/10/00 - She's close to being borderline obsessed.
- Only a crush, or a prime excuse for exquisite drama?
Date: 04/10/00 - Boyfriend is a born-again liar.
- Should she take the highroad or hunker down and help him out?
Date: 04/03/00 - Dream-lady's cat throws him into asthma fits.
- Simple case of allergy medication, or woman-cat-man love triangle?
Date: 04/03/00 - Is there a simple rule about which color rose for what occasion?
- Or is a rose is a rose is a rose?
Date: 04/03/00 - He keeps calling and calling, he just doesn't get it...
- Should she let him down easy or yank out the plug?
Date: 04/03/00 - Correspondent questions the social value of 'significant other.'
- Anarchist, revisionist, or clueless?
Date: 04/03/00
She slept with her best-friend's boyfriend
I've done a bad thing and slept with my best friend's boyfriend. I know it's terrible and what's worse is that I think I really like him. He says we should just forget the whole thing ever happened and never mention the episode to my friend. He says he's sorry and he made a terrible mistake. He says he's in love with my best friend and doesn't want to ruin his chances with her for a long term relationship. The problem for me is that I really like him. I want to have a relationship with him. I'm upset about ruining my friendship but I like him that much. I know he likes me too and would like me more if he just gave us a try. How do I convince him? Should I tell my friend what happened? Shouldn't she at least know that he's cheated on her?
