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Dear Lonely-heart,
He is seeing someone else, and has been since he started talking less to you - and probably before that. Yes, he has cheated, and is probably still with her now. Oh well, these things happen. You just have to dislike him for a while and give him the old 'he's a cheater anyway' write-off.
I'm sure your relationship meant a great deal to him at one time. Then the long-distance thing started to collapse and he became interested in someone new. The rest is history. Don't take his reaction to your break-up too hard - guys are very funny about those things. Nobody likes to hear those famous words 'I think we should break up.' Even though he is seeing someone else it is still a very unpleasant conversation to have and, believe it or not, he probably felt slighted (I know - the outrage). I'm sure he appreciates you. In time, he will look back on the way he treated you in your break-up process and regret his poor behavior.
More importantly, you need to make a clean break and start fresh. Forget about what he thinks - who cares? Focus on yourself and your interests, needs, new boys, etc. Move on swiftly and gracefully - you'll be past this before you know it.
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Dear Lonely-heart,
Two-and-a-half years mean a lot, no matter who you are. Even if he hated the relationship (or you) all that time - which is surely not the case - it would mean something. Don't go off the deep-end thinking you were nothing to this guy.
Obviously something changed for him in the last few weeks or months. Perhaps he is seeing someone else. Maybe he got tired of doing the long-distance thing, or he realized the relationship wasn't going where he'd hoped and he decided it would be better to move on.
Whatever the reason, I doubt he has just forgotten you and moved on. His reaction to your break-up seems defensive to me - you pretend it doesn't hurt to hurt the other person back. He probably feels quite bad about how he handled things.
If you feel very strongly about him, give him another chance to talk. Don't be confrontational, but see if you can get an explanation from him. If I were the guy, I'd probably take the chance, simply to get the guilt off my chest. On the other hand, if I were you, I'd just let it rest. You've already broken up with him, so why not stop worrying and move along?
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November 6, 2000
40% of Women agree with HER VIEW and 60% with HIS VIEW.
